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The Parent Leader Series · Book 4
Not Your Homework
How to Hand a Teenager Back Their Own Life, Through the Handover Method
You are not your child's support. You have become their executive function.
You made the revision timetable. You used colours. One box got ticked, and by the following week the sheet had slid down behind the desk. If you have said I care more about this than they do, it is worth hearing as a description rather than a complaint. You do care more, because you are the one tracking the deadlines. Your teenager has not stopped caring. He has stopped needing to, because somebody else is running the system, and nobody maintains a system that somebody else is running.
Inside this book
- The crossover: why your leverage collapses at exactly the moment the stakes rise, and why tightening makes it worse
- What more reminding, more supervision, removing the phone and buying a tutor each actually cost you
- The Handover Method in five stages: audit what you are carrying, make it visible, let something fail while it is cheap, move from manager to consultant, and leave the room
- How to get a study plan without making it, and why a worse plan they wrote beats a better one you handed them
- The phone, handled as an attention problem rather than a moral one
- What to do in the final two years, when the cheap time has run out
You cannot make them care. You can stop being the reason they do not have to.
- Author
- Marcus Fenley
- Series
- The Parent Leader Series · Book 4
- Written for
- Parents of teenagers aged 12–18
- Editions
- Paperback · Hardcover · Kindle
- Trim size
- 6 × 9 in
- Publisher
- Tsunami Reading